How to Protect Yourself Against False Domestic Violence Accusations

Domestic violence accusations can ruin your life, whether you are ever convicted of a crime or not. False accusations of abuse are detrimental on numerous levels, causing sometimes irreparable harm to the life and reputation of the falsely accused abuser, and raising doubts and taking focus away from the thousands of real victims of domestic violence.

There are numerous reasons someone might falsely accuse another person of violence or abuse. Some of the most common of which are that the accuser is emotionally unstable, seeking revenge for a perceived slight, or attempting to gain the upper hand in a divorce or child custody battle.

No matter the motivations, if you are in a situation where you believe someone would take the extreme step of making false domestic violence accusations against you, you need to take swift action to protect yourself. Domestic violence is a very real problem in the United States, and often results in a trial in the court of public opinion for the accused. Below we’ve detailed some steps you can take to defend yourself from false domestic violence accusations, but always keep in mind that it is in your best interests to consult with a defense lawyer such as Barry M. Wax who can help you take steps to protect yourself based on your specific situation.

Regularly inform family and friends of erratic behavior

If you believe someone such as a former partner could try to take harmful accusatory action against you, make sure you keep family and friends informed of that person’s behavior. You will want to establish a pattern of threatening or unpredictable behavior with witnesses who can later verify that you expressed fears the accuser could try to do something rash or malicious against you.

Change passwords

One tactic false accusers may use to “prove” you abused them is to send fake threatening messages from your phone or other communication methods to their own phone or computer. Make sure you change all of your passwords so they cannot create false evidence against you.

Document evidence of abuse against you

The mindset of people who would falsely accuse others of domestic violence often coincides with a propensity for committing abuse themselves. If your potential false accuser abuses you in any way, whether through physical violence or verbal assaults, make sure you document these actions (dates, times, etc), and try to find witnesses who can verify their actions against you.

Abide by any court orders

Often accusations of abuse can result in an ex parte temporary restraining order. This is a court order which can be obtained without providing advance notice to the accused person. The order goes into effect once it is personally served upon the accused, before having a chance to defend oneself. If a restraining order has been served upon you, even if you are innocent, strictly abide by the terms of the order no matter what so that you do not add fuel to the fire. And bear in mind that false accusers may attempt to coax you into breaking a court order, in order to later use it against you.

Don’t be controlled by emotion

Most importantly, stay calm and avoid any confrontations with your accuser. False accusations of domestic violence may fill you with rage, especially since many people will believe the accusations before you are ever convicted, but you cannot allow your emotions to dictate your actions. This is a time for rational thought, and the assistance of an experienced attorney. Allow your knowledge of your innocence to bolster you inwardly and present a confident and determined demeanor outwardly.

The Law Offices of Barry M. Wax is determined to protect our clients from false accusations of domestic violence. If you have been falsely accused of abuse, please move swiftly and contact us as soon as possible so that we can start working to defend your rights and protect your reputation.

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